Cuckolding: My D/s Secret
Cuckolding is the Best of Both Worlds
Shh… I have a secret. As much as I love submitting to dominant men and women, there is an undeniable dominant side to me. No fantasy makes it come out more than cuckolding. That is because I get to express both sides of the D/s equation in one fantasy and imagine living like a switch in a full-time lifestyle.
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According the Google Dictionary (Oxford Languages), a cuckold (as a noun) is a man whose wife is sexually unfaithful, often regarded as an object of derision. And as a verb: (of a man) make (another man) a cuckold by having a sexual relationship with his wife.
I would have a hard time giving a short definition for what cuckolding is. When anyone asks me to explain it, my first thought is about the origin of the term. The name comes from the cuckoo bird, some species of which lay their eggs in the nests of other birds. If I had to narrow it down, I’d come up with many versions containing five themes of the fantasy. But first, let me introduce the characters while explaining the hierarchy of control within the cuckolding fantasy.
What is a Cuckold? The Standard Fantasy
This is my version of the “standard cuckold fantasy”, based on hundreds of cuckolding calls over my years as a phone sex and cam girl. In the cuckolding fantasy, there is a hierarchy of control.
There is the “bull” at the top. He is a man who possesses a larger cock, typically 8 inches or bigger and thick. He is often black, but not always. The age of the bull can be younger or older than the other parties. He can be dominant in the Dominant/submissive sense or just very sexually motivated. Either way, pleasing him is never a question. Often times there are multiple bull lovers, sometimes even one night stands, but usually there are a few core regular lovers.
The wife is at the center of the fantasy. Even though pleasing her bull lover is essential and she is often submissive to the bull, the wife can truly be in charge of the entire situation. As though her cuckold husband is there to serve her through service and accepting denial while the bull lover is there to serve her through giving her pleasure. She must be interested in all manner of fucking; primarily through oral from her cuckold husband and lots of penetration from the bull’s big cock.
The cuckolding husband, aka “cuckold” or “cuck” is the most submissive in the triad relationship. Sometimes the cuck will be solidly guiding the wife’s slutty escapades, but usually he is being taught the way things should be by his wife in this unconventional marriage. He usually has a smaller than average cock, but as common as this is, it often isn’t the case at all. I have had callers ask to be told they are small, when in actuality, their cocks are average or larger! Whatever the case, the husband often wants to be humiliated for his size through small penis humiliation, which can range from loving and playful to downright ruthless. It is very common for the cuckold to clean up the wife’s creampie mess at the end (or middle) of the fantasy.
I have played out so many versions of the cuckolding fantasy through phone sex and cam play. Everything from little details to more important ones can change depending on who I’m talking to. I have a caller who enjoys being slowly coerced into eating what we call “black cock cum”. He wants the idea of eating the black cock cum to be part of his birthday surprise, in which I fuck many black men and tempt him while he is very aroused. I point out that it’s the cum from my lovers that is turning him on; evidenced by how much his cock throbs and swells as well as the sounds he makes when I even mention the black cock cum.
Sometimes my cuckolding callers want lots of interaction with the bull, sometimes they only want to know that I’m cheating on them. Or they go a bit further and want to clean up the creampie, but still never meet my bull lover. Sometime the caller wants my lover(s) to be a man or men he knows such as his boss and/or his closest friends.
Often times, a caller will want to be teased throughout the process of my going out and finding a lover. My caller will help me bathe, dress and get ready to find a lover or meet up with my established bull. I’ll text him pictures of myself enjoying the evening right up to when we fuck, at which point there are long pauses in the communication as I am enjoying my night but I stop occasionally to text how hot I am and how good a fuck my lover is. At the end, maybe I’ll text pictures of my creampie and even pictures of my lover’s glorious cock.
Many details change, but there are a few likely themes within the cuckolding fantasy. Read on…
In my experience, cuckolding is a loving experience, most of the time. This may be in part because I have trouble being the type to demand anything of anyone too sternly, therefore I don’t mesh well with those who might want to be forced into anything or treated too brutally. Or perhaps it is the norm for these relationships to be more loving in a cuckolding man’s fantasy. Loving or not, there is usually some level of humiliation within a cuckolding fantasy.
Before I explain how this works, I will say I have come across two dominant men who are turned on by cuckolding. Each seemed to be highly interested in having a submissive woman fuck other men by the cuckold’s command. To be a slut for the cuckold’s pleasure. One claimed to have an above average cock while the other said he was smaller. Either way, size was not a big theme in the fantasy, which is a pretty unusual way of doing things.
Typically, small penis humiliation (often called SPH, for short) plays at least a small part in the cuckolding fantasy. The caller may like to talk about having his dick compared to the bull’s cock, as though he is in the same room with the bull or verbally only, at times when we’re one-on-one. He may want me to measure him, compare him to my sex toys and/or have him put his penis in a cardboard toilet paper roll to judge his tininess. I’ve played around with this level of humiliation a bit here and there, but not to a great degree.
My version of it is to make playful, seductive comments about my cuckold’s size; on its own and as compared to my bull lover. To humiliate by commenting on how amazing my bull lover’s cock feels, how it fills me up and makes me feel stuffed while telling my cuck that it’s a good thing he’s good with his tongue. This is often not enough for phone sex callers. I’m asked to call them losers and pathetic. Inferior and worthless. This is not really my style, so while I can throw in a thing or two like that, if a caller wants to be extremely degraded, I send them off to find someone else like my friend Candy, who is well-versed in more extreme humiliation.
Whether a cuckold caller is interested in mild, moderate or extreme verbal humiliation, humiliation is still a core part of the cuckolding fantasy. In the fantasy, whether the entire romantic situation is behind closed doors or known by everyone in the wife and cuckold’s life, the fact that the cuck cannot satisfy his wife and she needs to seek pleasure elsewhere is humiliating for even the modern man.
A fairly popular version of the fantasy among my callers is breeding; specifically me getting pregnant by my bull lover. Being impregnated by a lover is extremely hot to me. Maybe it has something to do with my cum fetish. I have a deep interest in cum. The very thought of a tiny drop of precum bubbling out of a man’s cock turns me on immensely. Some of my favorite porn is simple jerk off porn where I get to see the man release his load. The thought of the cum having even more power takes it quite a bit further.
The idea of a man’s semen entering me and having the power to create a life, change my body inside and out and then change my life so profoundly is amazing. I don’t exactly think of those details in the heat of the moment, but I think the sentiment is in my feeling of arousal.
Aside from the power of the bull’s sperm, there is much more to the idea of breeding within the cuckolding fantasy. For many, the cuckold is not just sexually submissive and chaste (see below) to the wife. He can also be supportive to a great degree, even to the point of being subservient. Affording the wife a home that is as nice as possible, a car, gifts, etc. The cuck will even pay for the wife’s clothing to wear for her bull lover and dinner for the couple, which adds to the humiliation. Since the wife desires a “superior man” sexually, she may also feel that her bull is superior in all aspects and may want his seed rather than her husband’s. While her cuckold husband is an excellent provider, he cannot give her the good genes of a “real man”.
Some of my cuckold callers have taken this further and talked about how he, as the cuckold, would be raising a superior man’s child and that everyone in his life would know this, furthering the humiliation.
It should be clear now that black men are fetishized within this fantasy. This is a source of conflict within my mind. I think it’s fairly common for a person to not enjoy being fetishized, that they want to be adored, desired and loved as a whole human being. As a phone sex operator and cam girl and maybe having something to do with my personality, I actually enjoy having a part of me fetishized. How any given African American man would feel about his blackness or black cock being fetishized specifically within this fantasy is not for me to speak of, but I feel mixed about how ok it is especially in these times.
Sometimes my callers lightly toy with the idea that my black bull lover is an important part of our relationship. Almost as though we are in a triad and the needs of this fantasy man are important outside of the bedroom. But typically, the talk focuses in on the black bull lover’s dominant personality, his big black cock and his beautiful skin giving contrast to my milky white skin. My caller wants to hear that. To hear that it is a big black cock that I am worshipping and fucking. That it is a big black cock that is producing huge loads of cum for the cuckold to clean up.
I enjoy many themes within the cuckolding fantasy, but one that thrills me immensely is cuckolding sissies! Sometimes my sissy cuckold caller will reveal himself from the beginning by speaking in an effeminate way with a falsetto pitch. More often my caller’s interest in being sissified is revealed over the course of a call or many calls. Rarely, it seems it is my idea to “turn” him.
Many cuckolding callers enjoy getting my bull lover hard for me with their mouths (known as fluffing) and many of those callers will suck and lick the bull to orgasm. But not all are sissies or the least bit feminine. The sissy cuckold is a special man. He wants to emulate his slutty cuckold wife by being just as slutty as I am. I find that the caller often wants to continue being submissive to me and doing all of this to serve me. But sometimes it seems I am just a safe guide on the path to get to kneel for the bull. The sissy wants to serve him; his Master or Daddy. The sissy will continue to enjoy having me a part of the fantasy, but really he just wants that dominant cock.
I love dressing a sissy cuckold like a slut. Heels, thigh highs, thong, short skirt and halter top with bra straps showing all in hot pink, red or black. Or I’ll choose something prissy; a frilly pale pink ruffled pair of panties and matching bra or some sort of costume. Little bo peep or a French maid are favorites of mine. Whatever the clothing is, he’ll have his make up done. Lashes, eyeliner and of course pink or red lipstick to showcase his lips while he’s sucking.
Without question, teasing is a huge part of every cuckold fantasy with the exception of the dominant cuckold mentioned earlier. I want to tease the submissive cuckold sexually to keep him in his place. Some cuckolds need and even desire more, which is to say less as I will keep him chaste. Maybe for a week, a month, a year or for the entirety of our relationship, only letting him cum by manual stimulation. This could mean I am jerking him off occasionally, but more often for the chaste cuckold, he is doing the work himself through masturbation. Humiliation will usually be a part of the fantasy. I playfully remind him of all the things I have been doing to him and how unmanly it is of him to allow this. That just the fact that he craves being cheated on by his cuckold wife is pitiful. That his friends would laugh and maybe even disown him if they knew he enjoyed cleaning up the creampie after I fuck the bull lover he helped bring into our marriage.
Verbally humiliating him goes along with putting him in chastity, but my cuckold may need more. To only be allowed to touch himself and cum when I’m peeing in his mouth, when he’s cleaning up my creampie, when he’s sucking my lover to the point of orgasm or even when the cuckold is being penetrated by the bull!
Chastity is not usually played out as defined. Doing cuckolding through cam and phone sex is fantasy, after all. But just speaking about putting him in chastity is a huge turn on for a lot of my callers. In extreme cases, we’ll talk about him never cumming again, but instead being teased while he is wearing a chastity device. Attempting to give him an erection, made impossible but painful by the device. Sometimes the fantasy extends to real life. We’ll fantasize together about cuckolding, but he won’t cum on the call and will do assignments for me to get himself excited and humiliated when we’re off calls. This could be jerking off with panties on his face in the stall of a public bathroom, having to buy the panties at a store where he asks for help and makes it clear the panties are for him or just doing some edging while watching one of my videos.
Whatever the make up of my caller’s version of a chastity cuckolding fantasy, teasing and denying is extraordinarily fun and satisfying for me. I try to incorporate it into my cuckolding phone sex and cam calls as much as possible!
Cuckolding offers the best of both worlds. This is where I love to be; a foot on each side of the Dominant/submissive dynamic. When it comes to being dominant, cuckolding is where I have found I am most comfortable because it allows me to be most relaxed and genuine. I’m able to drift from kneeling to being on top in a natural sort of way. I also love being the center of the fantasy. The focus of sexual arousal for both the bull and the cuckold. A catalyst to sexual adventure for my cuck and a fuck toy to my bull lover.